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Personal stuff, Rants, Relationship stuff
We’ve just been guilted into going up to visit my boyfriend’s family for Christmas. I really just wanted to stay here and have a low key Christmas, but now we’re stuck driving 20 hours and having to deal with his massive family.
My boyfriend agreed with me about not wanting to go and gave his mom the excuse that we didn’t have enough money to make the trip (which we kinda don’t). Well she called yesterday saying that she WORKED OVERTIME so that she could GIVE us the money to get up there. There’s no response to that. So now we have to go. Blurg.
I think it’s going to be a big ol’ shindig with most his brothers/step-brothers and step-sisters coming. Let me tell you why this sucks. Most of them are around our age (26) or a lot younger but they are already married with at least one kid. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years, are NOT married (with no plans to get married) and don’t want a kid for at least 10 years (if at all). So basically we’re the weird ones because we didn’t get knocked up when we were teenagers like the rest of his family.
And his mom makes comments about this ALL THE TIME (”Aren’t you getting married yet?” “Did you two elope and not tell us?”) and talks about wanting more grandchildren (like she doesn’t have enough already). When she sends us cards or letters in the mail she always addresses it to “Boyfriend and Emiline Boyfriend’s-last-name”. I’d rather her not put me on there at all if she’s going to ignore the fact that I have my own last name. Maybe it wouldn’t annoy me so much if I was actually planning to take my boyfriend’s last name if/when we get married, but I’m NOT and I’ve NEVER wanted to. I mean, I know she doesn’t do it to be mean or disrespectful, but it annoys me, I can’t help it.
I actually don’t mind going up to Tennessee, because I like it there. If we could go up and stay in a hotel I don’t think I’d mind going at all. But his parents are the kind of people who would be offended by that, so I guess we’re stuck on their inflatable mattress again.
Anyway, I don’t really have an ending for this entry. I guess I need to go start looking for presents. That’s going to be a challenge. I’d just give them something generic like a Target gift card, except that there isn’t a Target near them and besides, his step-father won’t shop there because it’s owned by “the French”. (Seriously. SERIOUSLY!) 
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Comment by: Mary
Dec 11th, 2007 at 10:54 pm
lol! Poor Emily
I know how you feel with the last name stuff. I AM married and I still get mail or people who say Mrs. Oathout! It drives me crazy. I hate Matt’s last name! You would think by now people would get it.
Sometimes I wish we hadn’t married…marriage is just a piece of paper…but then I think of the benefits with taxes and crap and its kinda worth it. But thats it. haha!
Comment by: Vicki
Dec 13th, 2007 at 12:57 am
Ugh, I know how you feel. I’d much rather spend the holidays at home. I’m usually the one that gets cornered by the crazy relatives and am forced to listen to their political opinions about “foreigners” (um, hello here?) or incredibly personal observations on why I need to be pregnant right now.